I’m Not F*ckin Shy: A Guide & Workbook on Communication

You form the thought perfectly in your head. Then the moment closes before the words make it out.
You replay the conversation afterward and land on exactly the right thing to say at exactly the wrong time.
You’ve been called shy your whole life, and you’ve never quite believed it.

I’m Not F*ckin Shy is a plain-spoken, no-fluff workbook for people with a full interior life who struggle to get it out in real time. It was written by a certified senior peer mentor with lived experience of bipolar disorder, built from real conversations, not a clinical office.

This workbook walks you through three DBT (Dialectical Behaviour Therapy) skills that actually work in everyday life:
Half Smile and Willing Hands: shift your emotional state by shifting your body first
Built Mastery: build communication as a skill through small, deliberate practice
Non-Judgmental Stance: stop the inner verdict loop and start working with what actually happened

Each skill comes with context, reflection prompts, and a practice. That’s it. No performance required. No right answer.

This is Book One. It sits beside you, not above you.

Written for people who are quiet in rooms but loud in their heads. For people who go blank at the wrong moment. For people who are not broken, just waiting for the right questions.

Crisis resources for Canada, the United States, and internationally are included at the back.